Hi Lovelies,
Yay!!! October is around the corner and one of the facts that you may not know and which I love most about this month is that, despite being a very important month for me (if you know, you know LOL), it has the power to make me dare to dream more and set better goals. Most of the important decisions in my life, from obtaining an extra university certification, having an intentional and more consistent prayer life to launching a blog site (even though I didn’t start using it immediately), and some other decisions, were made almost around this time in the past.
It used to be a coincidence, until I started noticing a pattern, that was when it began to get pretty therapeutic for me, somewhat.
Talking about big goals, I have realized that most mums I know, or at least some of the mums that I have interacted with, usually have two major goals at the top of their priority lists.
These goals revolve around ‘Weight Loss’ and ‘Being a Better Mum’
I will be sharing my experience from my own perspective with you. But before that, here is a disclaimer:
I Don’t Have Much Firsthand Experience Or Idea On How The Weight Loss Goal Can Be Achieved; I Wish I Had Though.
However, I can share my antidepressants on how to live the best mum life. Trust me, you would want to read these tips, especially the difficult moments when it may feel like you are failing and how you can learn to be more self-loving. Like I always say, I’m still learning on the job by the way and I’ve also had to learn the hard way a couple of times. You have little or no idea!
The most important gen I’ll be sharing is this:
Living The Best Mum Life Has Nothing To Do With The Stereotyped Standards Which The World Expects You To Meet, That Are Not Being Met. Rather, It Has A Lot To Do With Defining What The Best Mum Life Means To You And Being Intentional About The Changes That Are Required To Take You A Step Closer To Your Goals.
Ok, I felt I should let that out.
Please go back again and read in between the lines. As soon as you start being that intentional, you’ll be surprised at how many steps closer you are to your goals. Ok here are the rest of my antidepressants. I hope these answer the age old question, ‘How can you live your best mum life?’
- Wake up at least 30 minutes earlier than your kids, especially if you have boisterous kids that can be everywhere at every time. That half hour of serenity can make wonders for your sanity as you plan your day.
- Set a monthly ‘parenting pause’ if that’s possible. Make it a habit to spend some me-time occasionally, especially if there’s someone to babysit the kids. Use that time to unwind, read a book, soak in a warm bathtub and calm your nerves completely. Remember you were a woman even before you became a mum. Whatever it is that will make you feel better… That woman still matters a whole lot and you’ll be surprised at the difference that a little pause can make.
- My mother’s prayers shaped me in more ways than I will ever know, so it’s important to have an authentic prayer life as a mum and wife, for the sake of your wellbeing and that of your family. A major and most important goal for all mums, I must say.
- Start or finish a degree or post graduate diploma if you can afford it.
- Laugh often, sing songs while making lunch, during bath time or watch a silly TV show together before their bedtime. Don’t get distracted though. Watch out for my bedtime routine post coming soon.
- Make homemade meals or bake as often as you can. This can be quite therapeutic for some.
Which of these gens have you been doing and which ones will you be trying out soon? Please share yours too. Let’s all learn together.
I know that all these struggles make us better parents anyway but remember to practise self-care along the way too. Self-care is not only a gift we give ourselves. It’s also the most precious love gift for our kids. How?, you may ask; By making sure that we give them the best version of ourselves. If you don’t take good care of yourself, how can you take good care of your kids? If you feel unloved and stressed out due to lack of self-care, how can you radiate the feelings of love and tranquility in your home?
Live your best life while you still can, so that you don’t end up washing your hands just to crack palm kernels for cockerels, if you know what I mean.
YOLO!
XOXO,
Yours Truly
Nikimandi
Nikimandi
