Hey Lovelies,
Is this ‘Hey’ like, ‘Gee thanks, she’s back for good this time’ or is this ‘Hey’ like, ‘She’s here for another round of peek-a-boo’?
I know you may be wondering, or maybe not really.
But just incase you were wondering, I may have to go with the former ‘Hey!’
Yes, and I’m being resolute about it this time. Hold me accountable if I don’t keep this resolution.
Ok! Enough with me beating around the bush.
I’ve missed being on this blog, sincerely. These past weeks have been quite hectic… I promised myself that I wasn’t going to bore you with what I have been up to. I’ll do that when the time is right, though. But for now, lets get down to the nitty gritty of today’s post.
- Be Observant- It’s surprising that most parents no longer bother to take note of all their kids do. They substitute home education for school and forget that both are completely different.
It could be argued that parents are busy and obviously have their career paths to tread. But should we really be too busy to make out a little quality time for our kids?
This same time we claim not to have will suddenly materialize out of thin air if a child steps out of line. Why wait for something to go astray and then try to amend it instead of preventing its occurrence ab initio?
- Be Psychic- And I can hear some asking , ‘How is that even possible?’ Yes! It is very much possible. Read your kids’ minds without making it obvious that you are doing so. This can only be achieved when you have a close relationship with them, such that you are able to complete their words.
Yea,. I jinx with mine all the time, that I have lost count of the bottles of soda they owe me. I don’t read their minds yet though, but I try and I’m proud of it. LOL
- Be their BFF – Kids have needs just like you and me. Pay attention to their physical and emotional needs as much as possible. Stop building castles in the air. Rather, build real ones with your kids. Make a list of the more important needs and do your best to provide.
- Be approachable- Instill fear but don’t be an object of fear. Know when to draw a line and strike that balance between fear and respect. Kids who fear their parents, often learn to lie at a very young age. And with telling lies, comes other vices. They can be scared of your reaction but not you, particularly.
- Be open minded- Teach and encourage them to make choices by themselves and for themselves. Sometimes, I get to ask my 9 year old to help me with planning out the menu for the week, or something related. You should see her glow when I do. Infact, she kvells.
- Be kind, not abusive. I wrote a lengthy, detailed and educative post about this. Please be on the look out for it soon.
- Be firm- If you give in to every single wish your child craves, then get ready to raise kids who will grow up feeling entitled. It never ends well.
- Be religious-Inculcate the right, godly values in these kids and you’ll be glad you did. Start early, without delay.
Our kids need special care and attention and for that reason, they should always be drawn closer to you as a parent, more than anything else.
XOXO,
Yours Truly
Nikimandi
