Contrary to what your social media friends would like you to believe, no one is the perfect mom. There is no doubt that being a mom is one of the hardest, yet most treasured jobs on this planet. It’s the only job that has a 365 days a year gig without vacay, sick leave or anything of the sort.
Raising kids, however adorable, isn’t a walk in the park. I have shared below, some of my biggest challenges;
PUBLIC TANTRUMS- My oldest daughter is beginning to get a hang of appropriate outdoor behavior most of the time, but that’s not the case with the younger ones. Especially the youngest who is still the loudest and most stubborn yet…Omg, she can scream for the world. #Phew!!!
Impatiently counting the months till she outgrows that phase.
CONSTANT WORRYING- Did we create these kids? I only wish it would be easy for me to simply trust God to complete the good work He has started in them and not worry over every trivial issue.
LACK OF PATIENCE- Those who have kids will understand that using a ‘by the book’ approach doesn’t always turn out the way we would have wanted or expected and that’s where the patience key should play a major role. I used to be an apprentice in that area although; my colleagues seem to think otherwise. So that means my patience level is increasing. Yaaaayyyyyy!!!
You won’t understand how this has affected me in the past.
And then my biggest challenge yet!
BALANCING WORK AND FAMILY- It’s little or no wonder that some moms, including I, have felt like a failure at some point or the other because being a working mom comes with demands which unintentionally pulls you away from the kids. From the diaper changes to the potty training war, bickering siblings and all, it’s absolutely difficult to be the perfect mom all the time.
Being a mom is already a full time job, hence, working class moms find it more difficult to juggle all the balls in the air. Then there’s the social media Frenzy that deceives some moms into believing that they need to meet up to expectation. Even when they are ‘make believe’ expectations…
Most of the time, I still struggle with trying to find a balance between work, love and being a mother. It really takes its toll on us if we are not careful or sensitive to detail.
I work close to 50 hours a week and due to the nature of my job, I still devote my evenings trying to complete a document or carry out a research. I really have to use that time to work if I dont I want to stay up until 2 am and still wake up before 5:30 am in order to get ready for the new day.
Working mothers deal with an incredible amount of pressure. And then you deal with the stereotype that you are not ‘readily available’ because you have kids. It has been a herculean task keeping it together.
Although, I would admit that recently, I am finally able to find a better balance – could it be because I am now just better at this mom thing? I am inclined to believe this. I hope it continues this way… I always tell myself, ‘it can only get better.’
Do you ever feel like you have failed your kids some times? How did you overcome this mom guilt? I would love to know.
Thank you so much for reading! Please comment and share…
XOXO,
Yours Truly.
Nikimandi
