Marriage Mystery-Real Life Stories from Women Who Have Made it Work

Hi Lovelies,

I know I promised to be back the week after I published my last article. I’m here again with some real life stories of how mums have survived and thrived in their marriages over the years.

When I got married many years ago, I remember asking some of the OGees in the game for a few words of advice to make sure I was well informed. I think a lot of newlyweds do this also.

But then I figured that with access to thousands of smart, amazing people like you, through my website, I could go one step further. Why not consult my readers? Why not ask them for their best relationship/marriage advice?

But before I dive right into the question part, let me share some of my discoveries.

Before we even get into what you should do in your relationship, let’s look at the don’ts.

Don’t ever be with someone because someone else pressured you to. This particular lady got married the first time because she was raised Catholic and that’s what you were supposed to do. 

Wrong. 

She got married the second time because she was miserable and lonely and thought having a loving husband would fix everything for her. 

Also wrong. 

It took her three tries to figure out what should have been obvious from the beginning, the only reason you should ever be with the person you’re with is because you simply love being around them. It really is that simple.

What should you do instead ? 

Cultivate Independence and Interdependence

Thriving women in marriages understand the delicate balance and maintain their own identities, interests, and friendships, while also nurturing a deep emotional connection with their partner. By doing so, they:

– Pursue hobbies and passions outside of the relationship

– Maintain close relationships with friends and family

– Set boundaries and prioritize self-care

– Schedule regular date nights and romantic getaways

Now, back to my question, what’s the best advice you can offer from your own personal experience? 

As I close this chapter, I’m reminded of the power of love, forgiveness, and commitment. One couple, celebrating their golden anniversary, shared with me their secret to a half-century of happiness: a weekly ‘us’ day, where they revisit their first date spot, hold hands, and reminisce about their journey together. Another couple, married for 25 years, credits their monthly ‘state of the union’ meetings, where they discuss everything from finances to feelings, for keeping their bond strong. These stories, and many more like them, have taught me that a thriving marriage is not a destination, but a continuous journey of growth, laughter, and adventure together. May their wisdom inspire you to nurture your own relationship, and may your love story be one for the ages!

XOXO

Yours Truly 

Nikimandi